Why I Hate the word "Maybe"

It is a very well known fact that we do not know what lies ahead for us. A fact, I guess, that makes our lives worthwhile and worth living. Imagine a life where you know how everything will take place up to the day that it is time to leave this earth. A sad life, if you'll ask me. I am sure that is the reason why God let himself be the only one to know our futures, He doesn't want us to just wait for it, he wants us to work hard for it.

People ask me if I believe in destiny, fate or moira. Yes, I believe in destiny but what I don't believe in is pre-destiny. I do not believe that my life is planned ahead of me while I was still on my mother's womb. Yes, I know that I have a future but that future is yet to be written by me and no one else.

As a former student of Philosophy, I know that for centuries, various philosophers debated on this issue. Some believed in pre-destination while other believe in absolute free-will. If you ask me, I am for the latter. That is why I hate movies that depict lovers born and destined for each other and I hate songs with lines "it is written in the stars."

Also, I hate the words, "if we were meant for each other then we will end up with each other."

For me, those words are the ultimate alibi. It is an excuse for people to be stagnant and do nothing on their respective situation. It is an excuse for escaping a sinking ship. These are words of people who just let "love" take its course and sit back do nothing about it.

I am sorry, I don't believe in those. Yes, we all have a future, but we should work hard for it. Saying that destiny "would" take its course makes us do nothing or justifies why we aren't doing anything. If you really love something or someone, set your heart for it and fight for it as if there is no tomorrow. You don't deserve any reward that "destiny" brought for you. You only deserve what you earn.

If you love someone, fight for him or her. God did not ordain for us a certain person, He lets us choose and lets us do domething about it. God does not impose, He guides. I don't believe that fate should lead your path, you should lead your own fate. Because in the end, being coursed by fate is just like betting on a high stake lottery, some win but some does not. The sad thing is, we do not know where we will be and by that time there is no turning back.

If you really love someone, don't let fate decide on it. Work hard for it. And instead of saying "maybe", just say "I'm working on it."